Wednesday, December 30, 2015

A Revolutionary Resolution

Congratulations to "Laney4", the winner in Alexia's giveaway! Thank you to all who participated!

For those who don’t know me, I’m Alexia and I write category-length contemporary romance. I’m published with Crimson Romance and Entangled Publishing and starting in January will be self-publishing my Vintage Love series, books with ties to vineyards around the world—wine and romance, what more could you ask for?

Since my first story was published, two and a half years ago, life has been a bit crazy. I now have nine books on the market with two more in the editing stages. I also have four children, the oldest is in high school and the youngest in grade 2. Although my husband is super supportive and the children are a great help around the house (three of them have cook nights where they prepare the meal for the family) there is still a lot of Mom stuff to do. So I have, in effect, two full-time jobs. 

The other night as I dragged myself to bed at 3 a.m., I realized I am the worst boss ever. I no longer even reward myself with my favorite chocolate for submitting or selling a book. I work seven days a week at writing and even when I’m not at my keyboard I’m often obsessing about a scene or problem with a character. 

Then I typed something that made me stop and think. In my upcoming book The Playboy and The Single Mum, Daniel the hero, makes Lexy the overworked single mother heroine, promise that while they are together she will do one thing each day just for herself. It could be something as simple as a bubble bath or taking an hour to read a book. And I thought, hey, if I can be nice to my characters, why can’t I be nicer to myself? I spend hours and hours doing my three daughters’ hair but haven’t been to the hairdresser myself since February. I buy shoes and new clothes for them but won’t buy anything for myself unless I’m desperate or it’s an incredible sale. Yes, I know this is all part of being a mom and I don’t begrudge the self-sacrifice (at least not often) but before I turn into some horrible hag, things need to change.

So, for 2016 my revolutionary resolution isn’t to lose weight, or go to the gym, or drink less wine (that last one wouldn’t make it through the first day). I’m going to be nicer to myself. I know I won’t manage the one thing a day just for me, that would take too much thought and turn into having a shower as my treat. But I am going to do one thing a week. Maybe I’ll paint my nails, maybe have a bath with one of those great bath bombs from Lush, maybe I’ll take a morning off, grab my camera and recapture my love of photography. And, with each book release, forget the chocolate, I’m getting a one hour massage to work out all the knots in my neck and shoulders from too many hours slumped over the keyboard.
I ask all of those who know me personally, and those who don’t please connect with me on social media, to make sure I live up to my resolution. 

Are you making any resolutions or goals for 2016? Share them in the comments and the beautiful Maureen will select one commenter to win a Kindle copy of my latest release, The Greek’s Stowaway Bride. Take an action-filled cruise around the Greek islands with this laugh-out-loud romance.
Happy 2016, everyone!

Short Bio:
Alexia once traveled the world, meeting new people, experiencing new sights and tastes. She’s lived in Canada, New Zealand, Australia, England, and France, as well as spent time in Panama and Russia. When life demanded that she stay rooted in one place, she took to vicarious voyages through the characters she created in her romance novels. Her stories reflect her love of travel and feature locations as diverse as the wind-swept prairies of Canada to hot and humid cities in Asia. To discover other books written by Alexia or read her blog on inspirational destinations, Journey to Love at and sign up for her newsletter to keep up-to-date with new books and adventures. 

Social Media Links:

Miss Guided (a Guide to Love novella)
Played bythe Billionaire (a Guide to Love novel)    
His BillionDollar Dilemma (a Guide to Love novel)

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  1. I do not usually make resolutions, but I will read as much as I can squeeze in! ;) Wishing all a Happy New Year!

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Colleen. I don't normally make resolutions although I plan goals. But I felt I had to do something or I wouldn't be sane this time next year. I hope 2016 is a good one for you!

  2. don't really make them

    bn100candg at hotmail dot com

    1. Thanks for stopping by, bn100. I hope 2016 is a good year for you.

  3. I often have a "word of the year" goal. It has been "ruthless", as in throwing out/getting rid of as much stuff as I can. It has been "balance", as in do something for someone else then do something for me (like read a book). It has been "cleanse" which takes in the "ruthless" part but also the "balance" part for me.
    So what's my word for 2016? I don't have a clue! So far all that's coming to me is, "Say no!" to stuff I don't want to do and "Say yes!" to stuff I DO want to do or SHOULD do. It's probably part of that "balance" word again.
    BTW, I bet I would love reading your "LOL romance". Thanks for sharing!
    (Maureen has my email address)

    1. Hi Laney4, that is an excellent idea, having a word for the year. Or in my case, I guess it would be an expression - "me, too." I had to learn to say 'no' to stuff a few years back when I battled cancer, I realized I just couldn't do it all. Letting go of the guilt of not doing everything my children ask of me was the hardest of all. But they've learned independence and prioritization and I've lessened my stress level (somewhat). So it can be done. Thanks for stopping by today and I hope 2016 is good to you.

  4. The last six months have been hectic due to family emergencies. I'm hoping to get caught up and get back to a regular schedule.

    jtcgc at yahoo dot com

    1. I hope things settle down for you, Taurus. I know how family issues can completely derail life. Thanks for stopping by today. Alexia

  5. About 10 years ago, I started using one word as my focus all year - and wow, did that work for me! Glad to see others do this as well! Two years ago, it was "Change"... as in, change is inevitable so might as well go along for the ride and enjoy it! Last year it was "Peace of mind"... Not saying what this year's word is - still flipping back and forth on two similar words, trying to feel which one speaks to me most.
    I love love your resolutions. As a mother of 4 thank-heavens-they're-adults-now children, I remember only too well how my time, energy, finances, thoughts, and heart were totally involved with my kids' needs. Hard to have much to give them when one is running on "empty" however. Fill up that bucket, Alexia - you will feel so much more energy and pleasure in life... Cheers (clink!)

    1. You are my inspiration, Celia. I think your word for 2016 should be "Enjoy". You deserve it.


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